Empowered after a breakup, childhood and narcissistic abuse
Breakup with an abusive partner triggers childhood trauma
Ella came fresh out of a relationship with an abusive, narcissistic partner. This triggered childhood trauma she had never dealt with. She found me to heal the heavy burden of a lifetime of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. She told me she had been betrayed by everyone she had ever been with. Every person who was meant to look after her, care for or love her had let her down or trampled over her in one way or another.
Flashbacks, disturbing dreams and sexual abuse
She had been conditioned not to have boundaries. To accept being controlled, manipulated, bruised, molested and punished with silent treatment. She recognised her pattern of escaping a situation or trauma, and starting again with nothing to rebuild her life. Yet she was haunted by disturbing dreams and flashbacks.
Stress, anger and survival mode
Her stress levels were maxed out. She had been running on adrenaline since her ex left. She functioned in survival mode. Three months earlier, she nearly died in A&E due to broken bones and infection. Her children and business kept her going to the end of every day. When provoked, she would erupt in angry outbursts. She had forced herself to control them, but strongly believed these impulses were rooted in her childhood experiences.
Inner child healing and hypnotherapy to find peace and safety
I helped Ella heal her inner child. Let go of emotional burdens and energy that did not belong to her. She reclaimed parts of her soul that had been frozen in traumatic events. She learned to re-parent her younger selves. She gave them the love, care and trust that she never experienced. She visited traumatic memories to heal them and rewrite her story. This created safety and peace in her inner world. Recurring dreams and flashbacks stopped.
Feeling empowered and setting boundaries
She excitedly told me she feels transformed. Like a new version of Ella 5.0! She noticed that she talks and acts differently. Most importantly, she is no longer taking people’s shit, instead, she is setting boundaries. She has learned to choose her response, rather than being sucked into drama. She gifted me her book and said:
“The immense power that’s come from this breakthrough journey with you that I’m on has been beyond measure. Thank you. I am very, very grateful for you.”
Winning an award, inner peace and justice
Ella received an industry award recognising her achievements. She has made changes in her business, taking time for self-care. She allows herself to be and feel at peace. For the first time ever, she went on a holiday by herself to relax, process, integrate and spend quality alone. After each session, she noticed an increased flow in her life. An unexpected inheritance, justice, and reviving processes that lay dormant for months.
Empowered, feeling worth it and and speaking her truth
She is passionate about speaking her truth. She is taking her abuser to court to demand justice and protect others. This is a testament to her courage and increased sense of self-worth. She is no longer a victim. She has learned to trust herself and her intuition, feeling strong, focused and empowered.
No more alcohol or cigarette cravings
A year later, I check in and she tells me she is in a good place. She no longer smokes cigarettes or craves alcohol. Her body simply does not want it any more. She is looking after herself, her health and fitness by juicing and eating well.
Happiness and freedom finally
She says: “I’m living my life with a freedom and happiness I’ve never experienced before. We’ve had the best summer, and we are moving! All the new chapters and grounding.”